“Women get two births: - Blessed or cursed?”

We almost all think and feel that women are more weak physically as well as mentally, emotional and sensitive in nature as compared to men. Whether we all want to admit or not, it is what we all feel in respect to our thinking or mentality. I also agree that women are emotional and sensitive when it comes to her relations and her loved ones. This is not at all anything bad according to my senses. It only shows that women are more caring, loving and understanding in nature as compared to men. It is her love and affection that makes her emotional & sensitive in case of her relations is concerned. But I totally disagree to accept that women are weaker in nature as compared to men. I feel women are stronger than men. The sacrifices woman can do in life, a man will not. Woman is a symbol of love, luck, care, happiness, affection, sacrifice, understanding, prosperity, togetherness, support etc. Women are full of understandings and do sacrifice a lot in life for her relations and for love than men. Who can never try to even attempt such things in life. A man can never be fully satisfied with his relations and life but women usually do always. She gets two births in a single life. First birth at a place where GOD has decided her to live with her blood relations and second birth at a place where she or her parents decided to marry her with all new relations of life and mold herself according to their preferences.

Firstly she learns all the cultures, customs, behaviors, favorites, traditions etc residing with her blood relations, sometime serve and sacrifice herself & ambitions for the family and relations associated with her without even letting them realize her sacrifices. After the first when she took second birth at her husband’s place, where she will be residing for her whole life have to repeat all again. Now this is the time when she has to start her life once again and has to sacrifice & understand everyone there at new place and mold herself accordingly. Also we as a parents always suggest & advice our daughters to adjust & understand to her full capacity at her new home. We all console her at the time of her leaving our house by advising her that, “daughter! Our house is not belongs to her ever in life, the real actual home of her is her husband’s house, where you will be residing forever, mark these words and never involve us in her family matters now on, please try to forget us.” In respect to that she never asks or complains about the same. She happily accepts the reality and ready for adjustments as well. Same happens at the time of her entering into husband’s house. When she again told by them to do all necessary adjustments and understandings here because she is new in the house & has to do adjustments with the family. The family will do a little adjustment possible but most of them should be from her side. Then again she happily accepts all and tries to mold herself. So it is not weakens show. Only those can do it, who are mentally strong enough and women do it everytime. So, how can we say that women are weaker than men.

We all should understand that women have very narrow world which starts from family and ends at family. This is the reason they are more emotional and sensitive than men. This is also one of the reasons that we all have misapprehension of believing women weak as compared to men. If anyone asks me of women then I will say, hats off to women from bottom of my heart and I sincerely mean it. We all should understand and respect her for all sacrifices, love and affection. We all must open our mind and eyes for not think and admire women as sex item only. Wake up! Wake up! Whenever I saw, came to know and heard some violence against women whether physically or mentally has happens, it scares and hurts me a lot. I start thanking GOD that it’s not my sister or daughter or relative. But, we should realize that she must be someone’s sister, daughter or relative. The lines which come in my mind is of Pahli Patshahi Guru Nanak Dev Ji’s wording on women misfortune are: -

"एह ती मार पई कुर्लाने

तें की दर्द न आया"

In the end, I request you all to please respect women. Stop this violence. Be gentle and nice to her. She is a living inspiration to all.

Mixed Quotes

A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be. : -- Albert Einstein

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A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. : -- Albert Einstein

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All men by nature desire knowledge. : -- Aristotle

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Bring you desires down to your present means. Increase them only when your increased means permit. : -- Aristotle

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Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to learn. : -- Benjamin Franklin

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By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail. : -- Benjamin Franklin

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Creditors have better memories than debtors. : -- Benjamin Franklin

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Applause is a receipt, not a bill. : -- Dale Carnegie

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First ask yourself: what is the worst that can happen? Then prepare to accept it. Then proceed to improve on the worst. : -- Dale Carnegie

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The pair of powerful spectacles has sometimes sufficed to cure a person in love. : -- Friedrich Nietzsche

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Ah, women. They make the highs higher and the lows more frequent. : -- Friedrich Nietzsche

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Always do whatever’s next. : -- George Carlin.

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Fighting for peace is like screwing for virginity. : -- George Carlin

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A good plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan executed next week. : -- George S. Patton

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I don’t measure a man’s success by how high he climbs but how high he bounces when he hits bottom. : -- George S. Patton

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If everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn’t thinking. : -- George S. Patton

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Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. : -- George Washington

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Experience teaches us that it is much easier to prevent an enemy from posting themselves than it is to dislodge them after they have got possession. : -- George Washington

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A man is rich in proportion to the number of things he can afford to let alone. : -- Henry David Thoreau

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All men are children, and of one family. The same tale sends them all to bed, and wakes them in the morning. : -- Henry David Thoreau

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All this wordly wisdom was once the unamiable heresy of some wise man. : -- Henry David Thoreau

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A bore is a person who opens his mouth and puts his feats in it. : -- Henry ford

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coming together is a beginning, keeping together is progress, working together is success. : -- Henry ford

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Be candid with everyone. : -- Jack Welch

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Change before you have to. : -- Jack Welch

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Control you own destiny or someone else will. : -- Jack Welch

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Face reality as it is, not as it was or you wish it to be. : -- Jack Welch

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Bend your views to the chart, not the charts to your view. Even castles made of sand, fall into the sea eventually. : -- Jimi Hendrix

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I try to use my music to move these people to act. : -- Jimi Hendrix

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I used to live in a room full of mirrors, all I could see was me. : -- Jimi Hendrix

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Abuse of words has been the great instrument of sophistry and chicanery, of party, faction, and division of society. : -- John Adams

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In politics the middle way is none at all. : -- John Adams

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Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction. : -- John F. Kennedy

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Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names. : -- John F. Kennedy

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I don’t think the intelligence reports are all that hot. Some days I get more out of the new York times. : -- John F. Kennedy

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Adversity is the state in which man mostly easily becomes acquainted with himself, being especially free of admirers then. : -- John Wooden

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Don’t measure yourself by what you have accomplished, but by what you should have accomplished with your ability. : -- John Wooden

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Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be. : -- John Wooden

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If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over? : -- john wooden

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History repeats itself, first as tragedy, second as farce. : -- Karl Marx

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Be content to seem what you really are. : -- Marcus Aurelius

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Confine yourself to the present. : -- Marcus Aurelius

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A man is never more truthful than when he acknowledges himself a liar. : -- Mark Twain

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A man’s character may be learned from the objectives which he habitually uses in conversation. : -- Mark Twain

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Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand. : -- Mark Twain

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A lie cannot live. : -- Martin Luther King Jr.

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Everything that we see is a shadow cast by that which we do not see. : -- Martin Luther King Jr.

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He who hesitates is poor. : -- Mel Brooks

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I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed. : -- Michael Jordan

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The game is my wife. It demands loyalty and responsibility, and it gives me back fulfillment and peace. : -- Michael Jordan

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I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love. : -- Mother Teresa

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If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one. : -- Mother Teresa

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We always have misapprehension of believing ourself a king instead of time. : -- Nitin JP Talwar***

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Knowledge best gathered in challenge. : -- Nitin JP Talwar***

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Only those bonded innerly with GOD, can feel permanent contentment in life. : -- Nitin JP Talwar***

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Patience rewards best in adversity. : -- Nitin JP Talwar***

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Urge never dies but commonly patience does. All available quotes can make you accept the reality for while but not forever. : -- Nitin JP Talwar***

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Tears are always useful in hiding mistakes and proving oneself right. : -- Nitin JP Talwar***

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A person who always complaints of being not understand his/her own feelings can be misunderstanding others feeling too. : -- Nitin JP Talwar***

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There are only two ways in life to vindicate our self a nice human being:

# Get innerly connected with GOD, generous thinking and ever smiling face.

# The second way that we all adopt in life is to confound others in a way that we can prove our self right but always forget that this behavior will make the whole world ill. This way of proving nice is just delude. : -- Nitin JP Talwar***

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Sex is a intimated romance for strong bonding not only a discharge game. : -- Nitin JP Talwar***

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Life is a dream for the wise,

A game for the fool,

A comedy for the rich,

A tragedy for the poor. : -- Sholom Aleichem

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Every one is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it’s stupid. : -- Albert Einstein

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The two most important days in your life:

Are the day you are born,

And the day you find out WHY? : -- Mark Twain

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You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you doesn’t try. : -- Beverly Skills

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You have enemies? Good.

That means you’ve stood up for something in your life. : -- Sir Winston Churchill

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Replace fear of the unknown with curiosity.

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The deepest rivers flow with the least sound.

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Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It means you’ve decided to see beyond the imperfections.

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Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass…… it’s about learning to dance in the rain.

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Three simple rules:

1. If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it.

2. If you don’t ask, the answer will always be no.

3 If you don’t step forward, you will always be in the same spot.

So go for what you want, ask questions and take that one step forward because you never know where it might lead.

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You are stronger than you seem,

Braver than you believe,

And smarter than you think you are.

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Doing what you like is freedom,

Liking what you do is happiness.

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You are a victim of the rules you live by.

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Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and its better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.

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Apologizing: does not always mean you are wrong and the other person is right.

It just means you value your relationship more than your ego.

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“Patience Will Pay”

Patience or forbearing is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances. This word is commonly used by dear one’s or well wishers to console others under difficult circumstances or in time of adversity. It is always helpful as a motivation to release the undue pressure. “Have Patience! Patience will pay” the first motivating lines used by us to console others and helping them to overcome any adverse situation and to release the pressure to work & think positively now on. So, we can say that very useful lines to shorten some burden or release some pressure to act wisely. Any one who is facing any financial instability or uncertainty, physical weakness, mental turbulence or imbalance, personal family disturbance, professional incompetency etc are always consoled by well wishers in a same way to have patience, time will change everything and your patience will pay. Very truly patience is a key to success. But having patience and doing nothing will never result in success but will always ends in desperation. So, I have tried to positively complete this quote by adding few words afterwards. Although the quote is extremely positive and optimistic in nature but I have added few lines to make it realistic bitter motivational quote. Following is the change I have made to the statement:-

“Patience will pay, only when you are trying otherwise patience pays for what!”

As it is very clear from my composition that patience will definitely rewards back, it is never like wasting the time but only on one condition of continuously working on projected target. Lying idle, doing nothing and still hoping that my patience should reward me back as I am waiting from quite long time is totally thinking crap. Patience doesn’t mean lying idle but still thinking positively that my patience will pay. Patience mean constant efforts toward the desired aim without being aggressive, sad, short tempered, adamant, hopeless and pessimistic on the way to achievement. The time we think patience as a waiting period instead of working or effort period is the time of patience converting into a sheer desperation. That is the time we loose real hope, that is the time we accept our failure permanently, that is the time we start thinking pessimistically, that is the time of volatile behavior, that is the time of irritating nature, that is the we hate life and world around us, that is the time we have a heart full grudges for GOD. Efforts are positively correlated with patience as patience with success.

Basically patience is strength and it never dies. If it dies in desperation then it is not patience. It is a revolt against an almighty power to grant in favor of us. It is not like giving time to ourselves to work in accordance to our desired aim rather giving time to GOD by praying and pleasing him everytime to grant in favor of us. For more clarifications, if we imagine we are standing at one shore of the river and our aim is next opposite shore of the river means to cross the river. We are also blessed a paddle boat by the grace of GOD to reach the next shore. But now if we only sit still in a boat and don’t want to put any efforts, not even try to move a single paddle but still keeping our patience intact for the wait of a wave in a right direction to reach our desired aim (shore) is not called patience rather it is dependence on nature (uncontrollable events). You never know it will happen or not. If yes, then when will it happen or how it will happen. If no, then it ends in desperation. Also we never know where this wave can lead us but surely not exactly on our desired aim. If we surely want to reach or achieve our desired aim, then we have to put lot of efforts while keeping our patience intact and maintaining our focus & light temperament to overcome every adverse situation very calmly in between to reach our final destination. So in a nutshell, we all should understand the real meaning of patience as an effort period rather than wait period to act calmly and continuously by keeping our nerves in positive control to achieve our desired aim.

OFFSHORE ACCOUNTS:- A FASCINATING WASTE

Offshore accounts are like parking a stolen car in other’s garage, which has no value after being parked. It’s just a waste of being stolen. It will just become a cause of being called crook anyway. Same is with excess looted money, which has no value after being deposited in offshore banks. It will never or rarely get withdraw & bring back into the hometown for personal use anyway because there always a fear of being caught in doing so.

I would like to share a story of Mr........, who was the respectable chairman in the trust of a holly temple founded for the purpose of providing facilities to the followers coming for the blessings of the GOD but mainly for charity purpose for the betterment of the human beings as well as the nature. Having a power of chairman, he used to steal most of the money of the trust for his personal welfare. It became his habit. Although he had stolen enough money for his luxurious lifestyle but he cannot stop doing all this because of his habit and hiding his sins. Whatever money he used to stole from that holly trust, he was forced to deposit all his sins (Money) in some other trust situated far from his location from being afraid of caught one day without knowing of a fact that this money (which he stole can be used for the betterment of society) was of no use to him also in the future. He cannot bring back that money in his home, he cannot enjoy that money at all. Now that money will be used by that deposited trust for there own society’s betterment. After all at the end many years later he started feeling the guilt of being a traitor in his own eyes for no benefit. The benefit of that stolen money is being lent to others but the guilt of being felt traitor is borrowed from the act.

Sharing my own experience in regard with offshore accounts, which in my case is replaced with allmirah is as follows. when I was a kid, I was very fond of collecting and stealing different kind of pens. Every branded or attractive pen fascinates me. It always urge my feeling to have that pen. As I was not financially complete, so I did not afford to buy it. The last option remains with me was to steal that pen & I did it always. I had gathered more than 50 pens at my home. I stored all pens in my allmirah but used only 1 or 2 pens in 5 to 6 years time span. When I checked all pens after a couple of years later most of the pens were not working at all. Now those pens were not more than a waste for me. If I had understood my requirements before and controlled my emotions of being fascinated than those pens would be used optimally by other needy people, which are now a mere waste for all. I did not use that pens at all but still I became a thief and a traitor in my own eyes. And when by any chance the actual owners of the pen will come to know the truth, then I will be proved traitor in whole society also without using the stolen pens.

In the month of June 2011, we had encountered a situation of hunger strike by Mr. Anna Hazare, Baba Ramdev and many other activists against an inbuilt monster corruption. They all showed their revolt against government to stop corruption. This act gained lot of popularity among people of India and will make lot of changes in Indian constitution as well. But According to me only hunger strike or revolt against a government will not make any real changes to end corruption but surely a strike will earn you lot of popularity. Corruption will surely end when we all come to know the difference between wealth & excess money. Money will never go along with anyone at the end. We came alone and will go alone but surely excess looted money will make our loved ones & Children sick in life, as they will never understand the value of money, relation and human beings. It will surely make them dependent & lazy in life. They will never know the real meaning of life. They will never understand austerity or prosperity & other emotions as well.

Human Behavior: A source of looting for Big Fishes in market

Almost 100% of the people who started working in stock market as trader, investor or dealer will come to hear very early that only big fishes of the market are earning lots of money in market. It is those big fishes who loot their hard earned money from them in days only. We all have heard that out of 100 only 5% earn money in stock market and they are none other than those big fishes renowned as the so called operators of the market. Exceptions are always there. Do you know why these big fishes earn lot of money? It is not because they are extremely lucky by the grace of GOD or they have lot of capital only. It is because they are more intelligent then us, they know how to manage money, most importantly they know human behaviors, they know how to play with human behaviors for their benefit, how to use their resources available in pursue to earn from human behaviors. Yes, they know what will be the mass decision or approach towards any situation or problem encountered before them. We create opportunities for the big fishes to loot our hard earned money. I don’t disagree with the fact that they don’t incur losses in stock market off course they do. Not because of us (retailers) but because of the fight between them. Now most of us must be thinking that who are those big fishes? Are they really exists in stock market? It must be look like very childish for few of intelligent brains in economy but it is a fact. As a proof, more than half year a back, there was an article in Economic Times that almost 50 to 60% volume of the NSE FNO segment is done by sum 100 odd clients. This is issued by NSE India.

Now I think I know the mass question: - how we create opportunities for them? We are also doing what they are? We also buy or sell stocks same as them? We also know fundamentals & technicals as they know? We also trade in the same software & with same exchange as they do? Exchanges offer same services to us & to them? Then where is the difference? To my knowledge difference lies in Human psychology (which is called as human nature, which includes Action & Reaction, Cause & Effect, Greed & Fear etc) and which further results into money mismanagement. In short, the reason behind the losses of us (retailers) is our thinking process .i.e. human psychology is the cause, which gives birth to the effect of the losses occurred in stock markets.

CAUSE* Human Behavior (Psychology): - Human being is very emotional especially in case of money. Every one wants to make money in truck loads as same no one wants to loose even a single penny from his wealth. Thinking of human nature I have discovered that, “Greed is always permanent but satisfaction always temporary.” It is rightly appropriate especially for traders and investors in market. Those big fishes are absolutely aware of this fact. No doubt this theory also falls on them but still they earn. Reason being powers- a combination of money power, intellectual power and especially power of decision not to follow mass crowd. As per my thinking I assume that most of us (retailers) almost 90-95% always take a longer position in market than on shorter side. So, theory behind human psychology is always being the same. “The more is the stock rates or index rates are increasing, the more is the appetite to own them to earn profits as same as more the rates are falling, more is the fear to loose the hard earned wealth in blood bath.” When market is moving upwards every retailer has a thinking that, “May hay while the sun shines.” But nobody knows where this upmove reverses. So, in upmove it is obvious that you made daily profits by selling older buying newer stocks everyday but don’t know when it will reverse the trend and market will be on blood bath. As always an uptrend is formed in zigzag manner in market everyone has an experience of stop loss getting triggered. A human has nature of cursing the luck that obviously turns into a rigid nature of not booking a loss in any scrip. In short, a retailer will book loss in long side once, twice, thrice but not always. If I know this retailer behavior so do those big fishes.

EFFECT* Money Mismanagement: - We all had heard from our ancestors, friends, parents, sensible reputors that do not go beyond your reach. It means spend only up to your savings, don’t ever look for credit. Credit will always increase your ability to take uncertain loss. But in stock market retailers have a common problem of taking over leveraged position always. This according to retailers thinking is smart, intelligent and cunning approach by using the money of broker to earn more profits then their actual investment ability. Out of 100 almost 90% of retailers are always using the money of broker to make more profits on their actual capital. This according to my sense is the basic mistake of trading in market. It is one of the main reason of being ruined in stock market. When there is greed of earning huge profit based not on your actual capital but on others money, it always ends up at desperation. The reason I am writing this for the fact that human being is the most selfish creature and also cannot control the temptations in case of money being earned. Retailers can’t measure the risk involved by using someone others capital to generate more profits. The movement of market is always sideways. It will never be one sided for too long. After few days of one sided movement it has to reverse the direction. So, there is no possibility of being always stay with the same direction of market for retailers. No doubt playing with broker capital, you can earn for 10-15 days but that habit will become disaster in coming days. You can have narrow escape once twice but not always. Some of us intelligent traders think that they will never hold on to any position with broker capital. But my dear friends only those can do the same, who are not emotional at all and I don’t think that humans are not materialistic. Only 1 or 2% are there rest all are emotional in one & other ways. I am also not ignoring the fact that when there is more risk involved the ratio of making money is also very high. For becoming wealthy, risk is necessary to take. In stock market this theory is also applicable but one thing should keep in mind that fluctuations in profit and loss are very high in stock market comparative to other business profiles. It is fluctuating day to day, hour to hour, seconds to seconds. Decision making time is in seconds always. Moreover the position is calculative & visible at every second in market. Only those can win who set very strict rules and regulations for trading and stick to them in every trade.

The last thing I know is nobody from us can fight against the hold of big fishes in our stock markets but surely we can control the effects of those big fishes to affect the desired results of our investments by properly managing our money and not reacting upon any rumors spread by them in market to avoid their traps.